I don’t make enemies, it’s just I’m not afraid to speak my mind, which can sometimes mean people don’t like what I am saying. –Alan Sugar
Am I the only one who’s so doggone tired of people not saying what they mean and not not meaning what they say? Just spit it out already. I’m not a mealy mouthed woman, obviously. If I have a questions, I’ll ask. If I don’t like something I’ll let you know and if I disagree I’ll explain why.
I don’t understand this whole cat and mouse game of words. It’s a contemptuous game of word play in all honesty. If you’re upset about what someone said or did and passive aggressively handle it or indirectly address it how can you expect the other party to ever know? Let me be the first to tell you that, that method of communication is for the birds. You’ve gotta take the bull by the horns and say what you’ve got to say; and mean what you say.
If you’re upset, take some time to sort out your thoughts. Take the emotion out of it so that you’re not making rash decisions based on emotions. (Ladies, we do this a lot).
Make sure you’re not making a mountain out of a molehill.
Keep your word.
Be honest, not ugly. There is a difference.
Remember in being honest, not everyone will like what you have to say.
It’s okay if you have a difference of opinion. Being agreeable doesn’t make you more likeable. You’re feelings matter too. You don’t have to hide the way you feel to appease anyone. Speaking up isn’t always easy but it’s always best.
–Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar. –Jenny O’Connell, The Book of Luke
*Disclaimer like the famous Will Rogers once said “There are two theories to arguing with a woman. Neither works.” I am by no means an expert on the inner workings of every woman. However I am a woman and I know that my husband struggles to understand me. I don’t speak for all women I only speak for the vast majority that I have come to know and understand to be friends of mine. We like to sit and compare notes with one another on our down time because we have nothing better to do. To the gentlemen reading this blog today, I’d like to make you aware that this may or may not be of use to you. May God be on your side, good luck.*
Lesson 101: Men Feeling Like They Can’t Make Us Happy
It’s not that you can’t make us happy it’s that you don’t listen and that makes us unhappy. Believe it or not, we are delicate flowers, we only bite when we have to.
Lesson 102: Asking What’s Taking So Long
Have you ever tried to shower, brush your teeth or even pee much less get dressed while being interrupted every 20 seconds only to stop what you’re doing to go help 4 members of your family look for shoes, belts, a shirt, a coat, shampoo, toothpaste, or a tie you’ve asked them to put away a gazillion times? Try it. See how far you get and let us know if you didn’t forget to apply mascara or shave a leg.
Lesson 103: You Think The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side
We’re all the same. We all expect the same consideration we give. If you believe otherwise you’ve got about as much chance as a one-legged man in an ass-kickin’ contest at winning that one.
Lesson 104: Make Us Swoon
Yes we want to continue to be wooed, not smothered but a little romance is nice. Hold our hands but don’t invade our 18 inches of space it gets too hot. We’re older now, gotta mind those flashes.
It’s only okay if we spoon you, your legs are heavy, you can’t spoon us.
Lesson 105: Make Us Laugh
Make us laugh but don’t be stupid or obnoxious, we’ll cut you.
Lesson 106: Never Begin Any Sentence With My Mother….
We’ll make sure that’s where you end up.
Lesson 107: Pay Close Attention To Detail
This is and will always be your greatest investment. Catch every little minuscule mention of something we love or of something we had as a child that meant the world to us. You’ll never go wrong as long you don’t get it wrong. Now if you bring home a gift your very first girlfriend mentioned she’d love to have…well, that’s goin’ over like a fart in church. You better give your heart to Jesus, ’cause your ass is grass.
Lesson 108: Learn What Each Traditional Anniversary Gift Should Be
But don’t take this too literally. For example, at the fifth year it’s wood, or silverware. The colors are blue, pink and turquoise and the gemstone is sapphire. Alternative gemstones are rose quartz, pink tourmaline and turquoise. Don’t come home with a pile of wood or a package of silverware. Put some romantic thought into it. Explain why you chose a particular gift. And absolutely never have another woman help you choose a gift because there’s no fool like an old fool!
Lesson 109: Take Genuine Interest In What We Do
Give us tips but don’t tell us how to do it unless we ask you to.
Lesson 110: Love Our Changing Bodies
We’re hardest on ourselves. We’re afraid of the younger dumber models out there. Genuinely compliment us. Don’t overkill it, just mean it.
We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk. -Thomas Moore
The ordinary acts we practice every day at home are of more importance to the soul than their simplicity might suggest. -Thomas Moore
To my husband Mario, thank you for always listening even though you’re hard of hearing. Although you know I run a tight ship at home you’ve always managed to reign me in when I’ve been running’ around like a chicken with my head cut off. Thank you for always supporting me and my crazy ideas and going with the flow. Thank you for trying your hardest to keep me happy when I’m not even sure what I want. Your effort, humility and sense of humor when all is up in arms is greatly appreciated. Even though the timing of your sexual nuances can sometimes make my eye twitch you somehow manage to make me laugh. Thank you very much for never buying me household appliances for Birthday or Anniversary gifts and for never saying “Well, my mom..” I knew you were a keeper. Thank you for using that big brain of yours for other things than just sex and football. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. To many more years. Happy Anniversary my love.