There have been many times I’ve questioned why things happen the way they do. I suppose it’s my imperfections and selfishness as a human being that make me think this way and question these things. I wonder when it will be my turn, my family’s turn to reap the rewards of our sacrifices and hard work. I recently read something that hit me so hard I almost fell off my chair. It stung. When the reality of my absurdity hit me, a feeling of complete disregard for everything I’d been taught as young girl washed over me.
How shameful that I’d allowed myself to fall into such a shallow pond and begin drowning. When did I lose track of the many blessings I have? I gathered myself together for a quick prayer of thanks.
I sat and read this over and over again. In my case it’s more like I’m not where I want to be but thank God I’m not where I used to be.
I realized quickly that I’m right where I need to be. I’m learning. I’m still a work in progress. I realized how much I’ve grown, how much I’ve learned and continue to learn. And yes, Thank God I’m not where I used to be!
As we continue on our journey through life trying to be the best example for our children, guiding them, coaching them, preparing them, caring for them; even with our loved ones, spouses, parents, grandparents, friends. This is the greatest reward we could’ve been given. To have our family. They are my guiding light.
The rest is gravy. What does anything else matter? I have what money can’t buy. That makes me rich. And for that I am thankful.
Know that everything is in perfect order whether you understand it or not.
I don’t make enemies, it’s just I’m not afraid to speak my mind, which can sometimes mean people don’t like what I am saying. –Alan Sugar
Am I the only one who’s so doggone tired of people not saying what they mean and not not meaning what they say? Just spit it out already. I’m not a mealy mouthed woman, obviously. If I have a questions, I’ll ask. If I don’t like something I’ll let you know and if I disagree I’ll explain why.
I don’t understand this whole cat and mouse game of words. It’s a contemptuous game of word play in all honesty. If you’re upset about what someone said or did and passive aggressively handle it or indirectly address it how can you expect the other party to ever know? Let me be the first to tell you that, that method of communication is for the birds. You’ve gotta take the bull by the horns and say what you’ve got to say; and mean what you say.
If you’re upset, take some time to sort out your thoughts. Take the emotion out of it so that you’re not making rash decisions based on emotions. (Ladies, we do this a lot).
Make sure you’re not making a mountain out of a molehill.
Keep your word.
Be honest, not ugly. There is a difference.
Remember in being honest, not everyone will like what you have to say.
It’s okay if you have a difference of opinion. Being agreeable doesn’t make you more likeable. You’re feelings matter too. You don’t have to hide the way you feel to appease anyone. Speaking up isn’t always easy but it’s always best.
–Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar. –Jenny O’Connell, The Book of Luke
Another Manic Monday’s Thoughts: Don’t Waste Energy. I know it’s been a while since I’ve written anything on Manic Monday’s thoughts. I’ve had so much on my mind lately it’s been hard to organize my thoughts and pick ONE thing to write about. This is one of my favorites from 100 Days Happier: So many of life’s eventualities are beyond your control. Work out what things you can influence and come to a peaceful acceptance of the rest.
Don’t waste your energy
Sometimes everything will go your way and on other days nothing at all seems to go right. If you are having one of those days, instead of wasting your energy raging against something you can’t control, take a deep breath and accept it. That way, even though the moment may be ruined, your day won’t have to be.
This has struck quite a chord with me lately. I’ve been witness to someone being so crude and ruthless, arrogant, vengeful, negligent, spiteful and hateful all at the same time it’s made me wonder how they manage to get through their day without having a massive coronary. I pray for you and your family. I feel like you need it the most. You need peace. You need to breathe and let go and live. What good is life if you’re merely existing and not living? Life is short, really short for some of us, wouldn’t you rather live it happily?
I want to leave this earth and I want the girls to remember that although I was hard on them I was hard on them in a way that was pushing them to do and be their absolute best. I want them to remember that it was fun to color outside of the lines and letting the music move us instead of moving to the music. I want them to remember the spontaneous road trips we always took, I want them to remember fishing trips and treading through knee high waters and plucking ticks off our bellies from walking in the woods. I want them to remember me laughing because their grandpa drove me crazy. I want them to remember the stories their grandma’s and great grandma’s had to tell about us. I want to leave my mark on this earth so that these girls know what their parents were made of. Love, laughter and full of LIFE!
There’ll be two dates on your tombstone and all your friends will read ’em but all that’s gonna matter is that little dash between ’em. ~ Kevin Welch
1. Health is wealth. It’s easy to take your health for granted in your youth. Things are easy and inexpensive because you have youth on your side. Imagine paying for things because you’ve mistreated yourself and your body.
2. Self care is more than self preservation. Self care is not only about caring for your body and mind, it’s also about nurturing yourself and your soul. Evaluating the company you keep and the things you do. Believe it or not, these are all things our bodies ingest.
3. Seek respect not attention. There’s a huge difference between the two, don’t blur the lines.
4. Karma is real, you’ll get exactly what is coming to you. (Remember Galatians 6:7) For whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap. Meaning, there are consequences for our actions.
5. Kill them with kindness. As a young girl I hadn’t the patience for this. I learned later on to put this to use. It really is the absolute best defense.
6. Reading psychology books really gives you a great upper hand at understanding people and their behavior. Everyone should read at least three different ones. Understanding the how’s and why’s plays a significant part in understanding and getting to know yourself as well as others and how you interact.
7. Getting older isn’t that bad. I’ve enjoyed my life even more so now that I’m older than I ever did when I was younger. Sure, my joints creak a little and I may grunt after a long hike but, I don’t think I’ve ever felt so happy.
8. The key to peace and joy is gratitude. Often times I thought peace and joy would come with job stability, steady income, love etc… The truth is yes, I’ve worked hard at all of the above but being grateful for everyday, and all of the above, and being grateful for waking for another day to put the day before to shame, that’s what’s brought me peace and joy. In an instant things can change, and if I’m not 6 feet under yet, I’m grateful to be here. When my day comes, I’m so happy I got a chance to be here and experience love, loss, pain, children, hard work, laughter; I’m happy I got to experience life.
9. You’ve got to leave your comfort zone. If you want to move forward in anything, you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Life isn’t lived in a bubble.
10. Make it a point to visit a good massage therapist monthly. Life is better when you’re aligned on the inside and loving yourself. Always remember the words of Eleanor Brownn~Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.
11. There’s always some truth behind every “Just kidding.” There’s always some knowledge behind every “I don’t know.” There’s always some emotion behind every “I don’t care.” There’s always some pain behind every “I’m okay.” Be aware, be cautious, be kind, but don’t be a door mat either.
12. Never say never. Life moves pretty fast there are unexpected twists and turns.
13. Don’t judge, often times we’re quick to jump the gun. Not a single one of us is perfect. We all make mistakes. Understanding and listening are key. You learn something new everyday. Try looking at things from a different window, gain a new perspective.
14. Riches don’t matter as much as fulfillment. All the money in the world couldn’t buy you the happiness you’re in search of without gratitude, sacrifice, old fashioned hard work & faith. Every thing we love takes the above ingredients.
15. Paulo Coelho’s introduction of The Alchemist is a Must Read! It changed my life.
16. Listen more than you talk.
17. Indulge in something really special every once in a while and share in it with someone. You don’t want to spend your whole life working without ever knowing what it is to live.
18. Stretch everyday & every night for at least 10 minutes. You’ll thank yourself for sticking to this later.
19. Giving is so much better than receiving. When I was young and (heartless) inexperienced I had no idea what this meant. I learned from watching my parents and grandparents. I’ve taught my oldest well. She is the salt of the earth. There is no greater gift.
20. Time alone with your partner IS imperative. Keep your bonds close, strong and well nurtured.
21. Have a hobby. Life revolves around work and kids, everyone needs something to do to decompress.
22. Appreciate nature, it’s grander, beauty & strength. Go hiking, go for a walk, breathe, just breathe. Take it all in.
23. Laughter really is the best medicine.
24. Mean what you say & say what you mean. Life’s too short to leave important words unsaid and far too short to waste time with long tongued liars.
25. Donate what you don’t need.
26. Don’t apologize if you don’t mean it. If you are sorry, prove it. Don’t let meaningless words fall out of your mouth.
27. Don’t lose yourself to someone else.
28. When you fall, dust yourself off and get up again. You won’t get anywhere laying in the dirt.
29. Quality over quantity always. Especially with family.
30. Make your place or space a home. Even when it’s temporary, you should feel at home after a long day. This will help you relax.
31. Discipline. There’s a huge difference between being mean and discipline.
34. Give praise & credit where it’s due.
35. Take a real vacation. The world only seems small when you don’t get out enough to explore it.
36. Trust your gut. That tiny voice that says don’t take that route today….is right.